The First Time I Tried Starting a Missional Community I Failed
Have you ever tried starting a missional community from scratch?
“Missional” is a label we give to the qualitative and descriptive aspect of how a church or group of people actually lives. My buddy Hugh Halter says it simply,
“It’s about how much like Jesus people become… how much they influence, woo, and transform the culture in which they are placed.”
A family, group of friends or church that lives like this… Sounds good!
Well, a few years ago my friends all thought so too. We were excited to be rebels who were starting a missional community.
Excited, that is, until things progressed to where we moved beyond our weekly meal and discussion about being missional. It was time to start heading out and building new relationships, serving those in need in our city… actually making disciples.
That’s when everyone recoiled a bit.
Let’s Try This Missional Community Thing Again
Now I’ve learned how to make discipleship and mission a reality–something simple that everyone can live out in everyday life.
What I didn’t know back in those earlier days of starting a missional community was that while most Christians want to make disciples and live on mission with God, they also feel way to busy!
Often, when moving toward a lifestyle of discipleship and mission, people become overwhelmed with what they perceive as the risk of their family time, “margins” and sanity!
The secret is moving from “additional” to “intentional” in our thinking.
Discipleship is not a set of activities we need to jam into our lives, or a series classes that we need to take. And a missional community is more than just a weekly meeting of our small group with a name change.
It’s a series of simple, rhythms or “moves” we can easily, and intentionally, engage in our everyday life. Step by step.
Imagine…
- Making new friendships that naturally lead to “doing life” together.
(I can show you how.) - Or knowing how to talk with others about spiritual things without feeling awkward or pushy.
Discipleship becomes a way of life that includes your kids, close friends and neighbors.
That’s what my family and friends now experience.
If you want it… I’m here to get you started without all the headaches, stop/starts and frustration.
The best part? It’s 7 simple steps.
This process takes a little effort and intentionality. But it’s not complicated. And it’s one of the fastest ways I’ve discovered to get started with others making disciples and building community.
(You can do Steps 1 and 2 today!)
I want to give you access to this free Start-Up Guide (including ‘How To Start a Missional Community From Scratch’). Just click the button below and I’ll send it over.
Behind Every Conflict Is a Gospel Story
Most of us hear the word “conflict” and immediately want to avoid it. But not all conflict is the same — and the kind you keep running from might be the exact thing that would heal your relationship. The problem is we’re wired to avoid the good kind and let the bad kind fester quietly.
In this episode of the Everyday Disciple Podcast, we’re going to break down the two types of conflict, show you why one of them is actually essential for healthy relationships and community, and give you real steps for addressing the conflict you’ve been walking around for too long.
In This Episode You’ll Learn:
- The clear difference between the two kinds of conflict and how to tell which one you’re in
- Why we’re wired to avoid the good type of conflict and quietly adjust to the bad
- How conflict creates one of the best environments for discipleship you’ll ever find
- Real steps for addressing a conflict in your life and community
Be The Church
If you’re a Christian who has grown up “going to church” most Sundays, do you find yourself asking, “Is this all there is?” Maybe instead of just going to church it’s time to BE the Church!
Please read on.
I spent my first few years as a pastor at a really large church near Chicago. I will be forever grateful to the staff I worked with during those years.
My life, character, and theology were shaped in profound ways during that time, and yet I still wondered, was this all there was? Is this what Jesus meant by his Kingdom had now come onto this earth?
Get a free copy of my super-popular eBook, Be The Church, now.
Baptism and Your True Identity
Most of us think of baptism as a one-time event — something that happened to us, not something we actually live from. But there’s another baptism happening constantly, one almost none of us notice. The culture around us is forming our identity every single day — shaping what we believe about our worth, our value, and what we’re for.
In this episode of the Everyday Disciple Podcast, we’re going to talk with author and pastor Eric Peterson about the staggering power of Christian baptism — what it was really declaring over your life, and how living from that identity changes everything about how you show up every single day.
In This Episode You’ll Learn:
- How culture is constantly “baptizing” us into a DO=BE identity – exhausting us
- Why Christian baptism is a declaration about who you already are
- How the Church has lost the full power and significance of what baptism is about
- A simple daily practice to help you live from your trinitarian identity
The Consistency of How God Now Sees You
We all experience hard times, relational strife or loss and fear. And it can lead to deep depression and self-doubt. However, there is always one thing present in those times that we can easily forget: the consistency of God.
I travel a lot for ministry and work, and I have for years. A while ago I was on a flight that scared me a little. Not long after take-off we flew up through a dark layer of storm clouds. The plane rocked and jumped from side to side and seemed to struggle as it climbed through the clouds. It was a pretty turbulent few minutes.
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Daring to Live Like a Family on Mission
Most of us want our families to matter. We want our kids to grow up with faith that actually sticks, and we want our home to be the kind of place people want to be. But somewhere between good intentions and real life, it never quite comes together the way we hoped.
In this episode of the Everyday Disciple Podcast, we’re going to show you how your family’s everyday rhythms — meals, walks, projects, conversations — can become the most natural discipleship environment you’ve ever seen. Not a program. Not a project. Just a family living in a way that others actually want to join.
In This Episode You’ll Learn:
- Why gospel identity is the only foundation for a family on mission
- How to know if your family is living a life others would genuinely want to join
- Simple rhythms you can start this week that open your home to real discipleship
- Why the goal isn’t to do MORE — it’s to invite people into what you’re already doing
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ABOUT ME
I am the author of the top selling book, The Gospel Primer. My latest books, Transformed and Small is Big, Slow is Fast came out recently on Zondervan.
I help those with a high commitment to intentional living in the areas of their discipleship, family and mission acquire the leadership skills and tools necessary to succeed and leave a lasting legacy.




