Who’s Your Daddy?

Families can be tricky things and we live in a world and time where many are redefining what a family is. So who are we supposed to treat as “family” – or another way of asking this question is:

Who’s Your Daddy?

Imagine that you’ve been living in your house for a few years, going about your busy life: working, raising a family, going to school—all the normal stuff of life that keeps us focused on…well, ourselves. What would you do if all of a sudden you realized your own father, sister, or brother was alone–in terrible need–and had been living right next door?

Maybe they are, and you never noticed.

Who does the Bible say is in “our family”? If we consider ourselves Christians, is it just Christians, or if we are Jewish is it just other Jewish people? Can we get by with only treating people who are just like us and believe the exact same things we believe as family?

Or are we really called to treat everyone like they’re part of the family?

I guess the answer to the question of who you will treat like they’re your family is best answered by asking, would you treat Jesus like a member of your own family? Jesus told his closest friends a story one day to help them grasp the reality of how he sees everyone, and how he would hope we would see and treat others.

“When I was hungry you gave me something to eat, I was thirsty and you gave me something to drink, I was a stranger and you invited me in, when I needed clothes you clothed me, I was sick and you looked after me, when I was in prison you came to visit me…. And his friends were like, “…We did…?”

He goes on and says, “I’m telling you the truth: Whenever you did one of these things for one of the least of these brothers and sisters of mine, to someone overlooked or ignored, that was me–you did it to me.”

I see it like this: We have some brothers and sisters out there that are estranged from Dad, from God. They don’t trust him and stopped coming to holiday meals and family functions long ago. They are having a hard time believing that he really loves them. But he does, enough that he sent a Son–Jesus– our own brother, to rescue and save them. It cost him his life, but that’s how much he loves them and wants them restored to a full and wonderful life in his family.

So let’s stop worrying about who’s in or who’s out, saved or unsaved. Let’s treat everyone like family…the way God does.[clickToTweet tweet=”Let’s stop worrying about who’s in or who’s out. Let’s treat everyone like family…the way God does. ” quote=”Let’s stop worrying about who’s in or who’s out, saved or unsaved. Let’s treat everyone like family…the way God does. “]

God is in the adoption business. He wants you and everyone else in his family. He says, I’ve got some pretty weird kids, but you’ll grow to love them!

The next best time to start treating people as part of the family is now.

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Ask Caesar #3

Everyone I know seems busier than ever. Work, car pools, school and life in general all seem to be at odds with living a lifestyle of discipleship and mission. In a very real way these things are all competing for the same hours and minutes each day.

One of my readers, Dale, wrote asking, “I’m trying to learn how to integrate my missional life with my family life – balancing family time with discipling in community; how do I do that without killing my family or never really living on mission in community with others?” (more…)

7 Reasons Why Gossip Is Poison

Gossip is poison! And I’ve noticed gossip is one of those things these days that is so common in relationships, in our conversations and in our cultural experience, that we hardly even notice it anymore. Let me show you how to stop gossip.

Let me start off by saying that I have gossiped…

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Lifeschool 206: How to Speak Gently and Think Clearly Amidst Conflict

It happens over and over again: a political argument with a friend, a fight about racial issues on the internet, a disagreement with a coworker… At the first sign of conflict, we flee to a bunker with people who think like us and—internally or externally—attack everyone else. We feel safe there, but it’s killing us: killing families, friendships, civility, and discourse.

This week on the Lifeschool Podcast, we’ll talk with author Brian Jennings and discover there is a better way… and we can walk in it! It may look like you’re dodging cultural landmines, but you just might be learning how to dance!

how to think clearly amidst conflict

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Lifeschool 203: 7 Ways To Romance Your Wife All Year

After several years of marriage, the passion in your relationship can begin to fade into the normalcy of everyday life. If you have lost some of the romance in your marriage and are needing to turn up the fire, this episode will show you how.

This week on the Lifeschool Podcast, we’ll teach you 7 ways to romance your wife on Valentine’s Day and every day! Ladies… you may need to pass this one on to your husband.

7 ways to romance your wife

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Is Time Running Out On Your Relationships? (How Gospel Fluency Changes Everything)

How Gospel Fluency Changes Everything in Life

Ever feel like you and another person you love are speaking two different languages? And nothing ever changes?

  • In your marriage…
  • With your kids…
  • With your parents & siblings…

Even as a Christian, often your best intentioned “good news” doesn’t sound like good news to the other person.

Speaking the truth in love is hard, but you absolutely can learn to communicate the truth of the gospel in ways that speak into any and every part of your relationship.

This is called Gospel Fluency, and it has changed everything in my life.

I get asked about this all the time, and much of my teaching and training is connected to helping regular people grow in their gospel fluency. So…

I’m Inviting You to a Free Workshop and Training Webinar: 

The Gospel In Everyday Life

Your Relationships Are About to Change…

Yes, the gospel really does speak into and repair all areas of life….marriage…parenting…everything.

Here, now. 

In this FREE training, learn how to bring the gospel into your life and conversations, every day, and teach it to others. 

I promise this will transform your life and repair your relationships. 

Here’s just a sample of what we’ll cover in this info-packed Video Seminar:

  • What Gospel Fluency is and how you can grow in and master this “language”
  • How the gospel speaks into your marriage, parenting, hard feelings, awkwardness… and any sin issues that need to be addressed
  • How what you do (your actions) in life do not equal who you are (your value)
  • How the gospel speaks to your identity and self-image 
  • How 4 lies we believe about God lead to all human sin
  • How to experience transformation and freedom from sin and past hurts
  • How discipleship and evangelism have been twisted
  • Why the gospel was never just about your afterlife
  • How Gospel Fluency Changes Everything in Life!

Gospel Fluency Changes Everything in Life

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